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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Your joke to the male would be off putting to me, if I were a female in that class. So, you've ruffled some feathers amongst the women by joking with one of the men. Since you like the class, I would just keep going to class but I would be careful about what I said to people, women AND men. Just be yourself, but don't make those types of comments and don't flirt. It's just a class - there are other ways to meet people and to make friends. You can certainly start over somewhere else and try again in another class or group activity. Live and learn!
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Interesting. May I ask why? Did I seriously miss a social cue with these women?
I can't be myself obviously... it's apparently too much. I made a bad joke. Slap me in the face and move on... (another distasteful joke)?
I'll see how tomorrow goes. I really don't know what to expect. Now I feel like I have to walk on eggshells and pretty much avoid the men (it's a partner dance... kinda hard to do that) so I don't make anyone "uncomfortable.
I'm gonna wear my glasses, loose fitting dress, sweater, flat shoes and put my hair in a bun (Since my comment was about looks, maybe if I downplay the "pretty" people won't be as offended??).
As for interaction, I'll speak to the women more-- not that I haven't been interacting with them the entire time. The men approach ME. If a man approaches me, I'll tell him I'm in a relationship (sometimes they don't care). What else can I do?
If I get too uncomfortable I can always leave I guess. I started the class to get out of my comfort zone... learn to laugh at myself since I'm always worried about "messing up" in front of people. Yeah... this made the Social Anxiety worse I think.
This just seems like a lot of "hoop jumping" to make women feel comfortable. I feel like I have to "dim my light" for the comfort of others. Doesn't that defeat the purpose of authenticity?
This is so confusing.