I still don’t think you understand it as I see now you are saying you need to wear baggy sweaters and your hair in a bun and “downplay” your prettiness. It makes zero sense.

The issue isn’t that you are pretty but must look ugly to please others. That’s not the case. Are you saying all pretty women are flirts? Or it’s wrong to be pretty? Its not the case!

The point is that you do not need to make announcements about your looks or flirt with these guys. The issue isn’t your looks. You seem to equate “good looking” with having to flirt. But that’s erroneous. Being pretty doesn’t mean you must flirt.

I don’t get the need. I flirt (being playful maybe as I am not a flirt in general) with exactly one man, the one I am in a relationship with. And when single I’d might flirt with one I am interested in and in a dating situation. Not with random guys in a mixed company! It’s awkward for others. They didn’t take a class to be in these situations

We all make mistakes and no one is perfect but it’s concerning that you do not understand the issue and keep saying the issue is that you are pretty. It isn’t! Your looks are not the issue