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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
As a person (like a friend), I would respond to this and be touched that you noticed, especially if it were true that I was preoccupied with something else. I think Dr. T might feel intruded upon, but that's sort of his avoidant-dismissive attachment style jam. I do wonder if maybe this will bring things up about your discomfort with uncertainty and/or your need to care for others (which is not a bad thing!). It seems like there is a lot here, and I hope it doesn't become a whole thing that is primarily about his feelings rather than yours.
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Thanks, EM. I do suspect he felt intruded upon. And I'm worried he'll go into that today. But I also feel like there should be a way for me to discuss my desire to know what's going on and for him to try to understand/sympathize with that, while still holding his boundary. I think if he seems to get it, that will go a really long way with me.
I agree that there's a lot here, and of course this is for a Friday session. The good thing is, he's still working Monday, even though it's Memorial Day, so if it's a difficult session, at least it wouldn't be an extra-long wait.
The problem is, now I feel like I *can't* email him if I'm upset or worried. Or if there's some outside thing going on that has nothing to do with him that is causing me stress/anxiety. But I guess I can talk about that, too? He hasn't been charging (anyone) for emails during the pandemic, so I wonder if it would help if I said "I'm fine with you charging me" and/or offering to pay for this past weekend's/week's emails? As he said in the past that charging for them makes him not resentful.