I'm not sure how to say this without rambling but I will try to come to the point.

I think that a lot depends on the therapist and the therapist's orientation if they allow "their stuff" to come into the "room/Zoom session" in therapy. I know for me it is easier if my therapist keeps her stuff to herself. Now my long term T that got MS, she eventually had to tell me that she got MS because she was missing sessions and I knew that was not like her after many years together. I guess there was no way around that. Now my current therapist tells me way too much of her own stuff for my liking. For example when she was checking up on me last weekend she made sure to tell me that she had been sleeping all weekend because she got her 2nd Covid booster. It's almost like she *wants* me to respond in some sort of friend way to comfort her or something. I think I did tell her that I hoped she felt better but I was baffled by the information. She was checking on me, but she kind of made it about her. That sort of blurs the lines of therapy for me and makes me uncomfortable. Not that I told her that but I thought it really loudly! I do better with therapists who keep their stuff separate as much as possible. I tend to end up with messy boundaried therapists though. It just leaves me confused and befuddled. Just my take. My 2 cents for what it is worth. Probably not worth much but I'll post it in case it helps anyone. BTW most of my Therapists have been "eclectic" in their orientation. Kit