I have a question. I've recently heard of a technique known as dog whistling. I know the definition, but I can't quite pinpoint an example. Dog whistling is when the abuser says something to you in front of other people that the abuser knows is triggering to you, but the other people are not going to know that, and if you respond, you look like a nut case. About the closest I can think of is this. My mother used to have a habit of referring to me as a “little girl” into my tween and teen years. She knew I found this demeaning. So she would call me a little girl in front of her friends, and 14-year-old me would protest. “Mom, I am not a little girl.” She would then immediately switch to calling me "big” in a tone of voice that implied I was fat. Of course if I spoke up about that, then I'm never satisfied. I complain when she calls me little and I complain when she calls me big, what do I want? Would this be an example of dog whistling?