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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Thanks, Artie! If only Dr. T could see it the same way...like this is part of the work, and I'm making discoveries. Instead of my currently being an irritation. I know that's not the only way he sees me, but it feels like it right now. I did ask today if he had caregiver fatigue (something we've discussed in other contexts) regarding me, and he confirmed that he didn't.
I was just looking back at my emails over the past 3 months, and it does seem I've become more needy, though it was originally due to stuff with D, like her assessments. And he was very empathetic. I feel his tone shifted maybe 10 days ago? I'm not sure if it was something I did or said or potentially some outside thing.
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For what it is worth, there are some articles on attachment styles and therapists and how the therapist's style can clash with the client's. What you describe seems like an anxious style running into a avoidant style. The more you demand reassurance, the more the other resists being sucked in. Assurance does not appease and in fact often it seems it only adds to the anxiety when it isn't done in the exact way you want. And he has been fairly upfront that he isn't much of a psychodynamic work with the transference sort
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