It seems that you continue focusing on what he does or doesn’t do or feels or doesn’t feel or needs or doesn’t need or what disorder he might or might not have (ton of stuff appears to be just a speculation and wild guess on what he needs to do in order to improve etc)

Not saying you should stop caring but longer he continues being the entire focus of your existence and main subject of your thoughts, longer you will be stuck and live in misery. The way it goes you will be 80 and still guessing what disorders he might have and what type of therapy he might need. Having your entire existence wrapped up around a man is not healthy even in the happiest of marriages. Sometimes people are hyper focused on real or potential or imaginary disorders of others because it distracts from focusing on their own life and facing the reality. Take focus of him for a minute

You cannot fix other people or control what they need to do. You can only control yourself. Focus on improving your life and your kids’.