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Old May 29, 2022, 06:54 PM
Holly Golightly 3 Holly Golightly 3 is offline
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
You cannot change a person, only they can change themselves and they need to be motivated to do so.

Given the new information about what he did to his own mother, why would you even entertain being with such a dangerous, low life type of man? He is a danger and this will only get worse and worse as time goes on. You have to be stronger than your own feelings and take care of yourself and your unborn baby!

As I wrote in your other thread in the relationship forum:

Feelings can cloud a person's perspective. You have to be very objective here in your assessment of this man as a father figure and partner. He hasn't been a good partner and he has a very sketchy past. He will disappoint you and will hurt you as a partner and he will disappoint you as a father figure. If you had a girlfriend, daughter or sister who had a partner just like yours, what would your advice be?

Your title in this thread states he is a sociopath.... and you mention this in your post. So why go down this road with someone you believe to be sociopathic? Sure, you can have feelings, but be objective. He is no good, and the sooner you get away from this man the better.

You also have to ask yourself what your standards are in men. Are your standards so low that this is what you are willing to accept in a man and partner? You have two masters degrees and are clearly accomplished. This man is a jailbird bum with no work history - you had to push him to get a job even and he's resorted to drugs. And he lies to you. Why put yourself through this?
Thank you for your kind words. I think I fell for him because he gave me attention. I was in a loveless relationship for 10 years. I have known this man for about 18 years and we were interested in each other then, but he didn't have his life together enough for me so I didn't want to date him. Fast forward a year or so, he ended up getting his current wife pregnant. We continued to talk here in there with the occasional check in over the years, and he reached out to me last year saying how much he loves me and always has and that I am his soulmate. I think I was in love with the idea of a fairytale love. He then went to jail for 6 months and ever since he has been out, I have seen him resorting to his old ways...he thinks he can do whatever he wants and talk to whoever he pleases and he would always pressure me to have a threesome and let him have another woman. I told him I am not about that life...never have been, never will. He knows I am insecure and have been cheated and lied to in the past, yet he continues to do things that I have told him upset me. I just feel as if he doesn't care about me at all.
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