I haven't posted in a while but I wanted to comment on this. You sound like me LT. passionately defensive of someone and I'm sure you will keep going but I'm not sure this is serving you overall.

I know that when I obsess over the T relationship this much it is as a protection thing. I think about every aspect and what they said or did. It's like thinking about the emotions without feeling them. You are not building any distress tolerance but moreover just focusing on what everyone says or does. My therapy has moved from constant thinking about it to feeling, to discussing and processing the big stuff. The fact this T has increased response to text, emails and even increased your appointments at sometimes shows that he is not behaving ethically. You may defend him and say he has helped you but really this same wounded pattern is still happening and showing up. This would be a red flag that he is not the T for helping heal this.

I'm sure he means well and maybe he is trying his best but I dont think this pattern will end until you heal that wound and focusing so much on who said what is not healing the wound.