I agree with many of the comments above. When coming to this thread the past few days, I have sometimes missed switching to the last page and didn't even notice after reading multiple posts because the issues discussed 2 years ago are the same as what we are discussing now. I know you have improved a bit with not needing as many extra sessions and sometimes being able to hold off on sending an email, but other than that it seems that nothing has changed. You are still upset about his responses or non-responses to emails and struggling to get him to respond to your wishes in the way you want him too. As stated above, he is mainly a sports therapist. Correct me if I am wrong, but that is not what you need. It is like going to a heart surgeon with a brain tumor. Yes, the surgeon is a doctor and a skilled one at that, but he can't help you with a brain tumor.

As for EMDR, I also think this can be a great help for you. I have learned through EMDR, that all of my current issues are related to the past. Getting upset about something at work, is basically a rehash of something from childhood. My desire to prefer to be alone and only rely on myself stems from experiences in childhood. By desensitizing my trauma from the past, it helps me deal with the here and now. Depending on the severity of the trauma, or number of traumas, it can also work rather quickly and does not require years of therapy.

I also think it would be helpful to define what your goals in therapy are. Are there specific things you want to work past, work on enjoying life and not feeling the pain of negative feelings from everyday issues, or do you secretly want the relationship from being in therapy forever. Rather than looking for a therapist that will accept emails and extra sessions, maybe it would be a lot more productive to find a therapist that specializes in what you really want to accomplish.