Hey LT,

I read through some of the response pretty fast so sorry if I repeat myself. I agree with others who suggest you may be stretching your T and teaching him things although he may not even know it.

I also agree what many others said about him not really seeming to explore his part in this. I get frustrated with my T at times as she doesn't 'appear' to do this and she is psychodynamic trained. I would think if he was irritated with you he might still bring it up but in a different way and as you said be willing to explore what was going on for you further. Like a poster said a response from him might be 'For some reason your message was beginning to bother/annoy me (but that is less about you and is my own stuff to explore but I do also think it is helpful to explore your need to send a message like that. What does it bring up for you? What is the fear behind it? Where does that fear orginate?

But, another piece of this is I do see his side a little bit too, which may actually be part of his entire point is teaching you that in relationships people get annoyed with people and that is okay. The world doesn't end and it's a normal part of every relationship and that the relationship can still survive. I'm not saying he did this intentionally. Like me, it seems you like to control others. And by control others I simply mean not upset them, keep on the right side of them, try and figure out what they are thinking so that you can please and appease them and get them on yours side. Maybe you spent alot of your life on eggshells trying to keep the peace always hoping the other person wouldn't be annoyed with you as that was scary and unpredictable when they were but the reality is as an adult people will get annoyed with you. Even people that care for and love you can be annoyed with you. That is what a healthy relationship involves. I dunno maybe I'm off base here but either way f I were him this is what I would be exploring further. .I 'm responding off the cuff and this is what has come up for me so maybe some of it resonates and maybe not. I have similar yet different experiences with my T so can appreciate some of the struggles that arise.