Yah, it's not the way he works LT. He doesn't have the appropriate training for what it seems you are looking for. In these circumstances, I think these clashes will keep happening. He is not able to give you what you need - i.e. a T with a different modality who would want to go deep, who would understand that reactions in the present and/or their intensity may have roots in the past etc.

I think he is trying but like I wrote before, it's like you are speaking different languages. It would be like trying to get blood out of a stone - he just can't do it (or he will mess up, stumble, have conflicts and then possibly learn from you)

What he is saying is very true: he is trying to 'teach' you that being irritated or angry etc does not break a relationship. But you are not 'receiving' it because his approach is more realistic-tough love or 'superficial'. His training is just not there (for what it feels you need).