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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul
Dear bananamist,
In your latest post you said he was very much interested in you,I get that.you said he felt rejected. Did he felt rejected by you ? I mean how? Can you elaborate on that ?He felt rejected and hurt by you and then got back or lashed at you in anger??Did I get that right?
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It's very difficult to explain. The way I see it is why would someone say they have better ( even if they have better). It's like he was trying to get back at me, that's the sense I got. He was overly angry, but over what, I can't see it as anything other than I hurt his feelings or his ego and so his anger took over, rather than him explaining
that. Unless he's a complete sociopath of course.
He came out with "you know ive rejected people better than you right". As if he's the bees knees. It's the way an immature man would respond to a perceived rejection by someone.
Either way he was showing insecurity big time.
In my view someone who was never interested would have just said so a long long time back, rather than let it get to that point. And would have ended it in a polite way and not in the aggressive and angry manner that he did.
Personally if i don't see someone in a romantic way at all, and there have been guys who have pursued, I tend to tell them no rather than talk about wanting to settle down and how im serious about having a relationship with someone. I wouldn't even mention it in the first place because I wouldn't want to put that idea ij someones mind who i dont see in that way. He took it one step further by always saying we should meet etc. It's just strange to me.
Also it was like he was trying to really have that serious type of conversation, by asking me continuously how comes I called him. Because we've had so many conversations where we don't actually talk about our situation, more like about our lives and other things going on etc.. He could have easily avoided it if he wanted and simply blocked me later on his own or whatever.
He asked me when am i going to settle down and i responded with "when I find someone suitable". To which he responded sounds fair enough. So he seemed fine with that. As soon as I asked him back he said hes got something in the pipeline. I think i asked in a curious way, like who and what etc and he told me he doesn't want to jinx it. I cant prove it, but it came across like he was trying to show off to me that he had someone else. It's just the way he was talking about it.
So anyway about 5 minutes after that he went mad and started snapping at me, saying he doesn't care about me ( he said it about 6 or 7 times) and all the rest and he had better and that's why he never called me and the " I've rejected better people than you before". Then saying im going to be worthless in a few years as i get older. When I told him when i go out I always have men who try to chat me up, he even got mad at that and called me a sl u tt, then made the point of saying he doesn't care anyway. Then telling me to shut the f up because i was apparently talking over him, then saying " i couldnt marry you you give me a headache". Also saying speaking to me is such a drag and how the conversation flows with other women so much better. Its like he wss trying to find everything he could to fault me and let me know why he doesn't want me. He had no problem whatsoever speaking to me for hours on end before though, plenty of times he was happily talking away to me about his life and his family and his work, never had an issue then. Now all of a sudden im a drag. He was just full of bravado. My point is why go into all that, if hes genuinely found other options and found better people and is happy, why be so angry at me for and start calling me names. That's the part I found odd. Again i refer back to myself, if id found someone hypothetically and an old flame calls me up, id tell them I'd found someone else and wish them luck, not start going into some angry rant about how I've rejected people better than him and how worthless he is etc..