Would love to know the other way? Do share...
Ya I was quite defensive when I first heard it was a form of manipulation as manipulative as such a negative connotation to it but it's true. We are trying to get someone to act or feel a certain way' even if we think it's for the right reasons. With awareness and and the development of a greater sense of self it has improved.

I'd think this type of mind reading and preempting usually always comes from child hood fears and maladaptive patterns we have developed which I guess could be called childish.