Dear banana mist,I am little confused here.You said you called him to follow up on that coffee meet,and then in reply to another poster you said when asked by the guy why did you call after a long time,you answered...just checking upon him.I am puzzled here,did you actually say hey I called because I think we should meet for coffee this weekend or end of this month or tomorrow ? something along those lines.It is really confusing to me you wanted to talk about the coffee date,you called him,and when after exchange of pleasantries when questioned by the guy,why did you call you say just checking upon you?? If you did not say anything that hints towards you being interested in a coffee date,I suppose you expect one to translate your 'just checking upon you' into' hey let's meet for coffee tomorrow.'