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Old May 31, 2022, 06:01 PM
Bananamist5 Bananamist5 is offline
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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover View Post
Have you considered that he took what you said differently than you intended? If I was talking to someone as long as you were and when told "when I find someone suitable", I would take that to mean you hadn't found someone suitable, and that included me. You may not have meant it the way he took it, but you also don't get to tell someone else how to feel about you or your words.

Your defense mechanisms are different than his. His personal defense mechanisms jumped into action and he began tossing out all manner of insulting comments to push you away. It's never easy to be rejected by someone. People react in all different ways that are different from our own.

It isn't my intention to sound harsh. You asked honest questions and I'm giving my honest thoughts in return. I hope you work through your feelings and find peace for yourself.
Thanks.
Yes the first thing that crossed my mind was his anger came about all of a sudden, therefore something must have provoked him into having an angry reaction. Something I said. So that could be one of the things.
The talk about him apparently finding someone and me saying ill settle down when i find someone suitable happened iust before he went crazy. Was the only things i could think of really.