For me when im told this(and i have been a couple of times) i feel like what i am doing is not being counted. I feel like im doing as much as i can and they think its not enough. They think i can just do a 180 degree turn and change habits ive had of doing/thinking things. It feels like they expect me to jump off of mountains with no safety net. Then the next session when im angry they talk about baby steps. Thats how it makes me feel and for me it usually makes me want to fire that t. But to others it seems to work good. So maybe i am not handling it correctly either.