Whether or not a person might be considered controlling depends on the needs being expressed.

For example, a person insisting on accommodations to which they are entitled to under the Americans with Disabilities Act is not being controlling.

Due to my family background, I feel very anxious and unsafe when with people who are acting as though obviously drunk. It is not controlling of me to ask of my partner that we avoid situations where that kind of behavior can be expected to arise, or to leave situations where it has arisen.

Nothing that you have ever said on this forum has ever made me think of you as controlling.