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Danialla said:
People pleaser.....That is me.

It is funny though, you can be a people pleaser and ruin those same peoples lives at the same time. Ironic isn't it???

You work so hard so that other's aren't hurt. You say yes to things because you don't know how to say no. You hope things will work out in the long run, but it never does. You RUIN peoples lives, because you wanted so much for everyone to be happy.

Being a people pleaser, usually means you work really trying hard to anticipate others wants and needs, but being resentful when they can't, or won't see that need in you.

Being a people pleaser has made me what I am today.

You know the type, we never are in a bad mood. We are the people that make you feel happy. Our smiles greet you daily and our quiet musical humming makes you think we are just the happiest most carefree people to walk the earth.

"Don't you ever have a bad day", you ask?? We just chuckle, "Oh sure, don't we all", we answer. Yes, it's probably that chuckle that throws you off, but you just don't believe us. That is okay, because we have stuffed our real emotions, our wants and our needs for so long, that we don't believe in ourselves either.

Yes, we are the people pleasers. The people who anticipate your needs, but can't ask for our own to be met.

But be careful people pleasers.........That inability to say no because you don't want to hurt someone, that inability to tell people what you need, that inability to ask for help for yourself will catch up with you. You will look back and see that for all your hard work, for all those years you thought you were helping people, you only really ruined their lives. Sad, because you ruined your live too.

Yep, I am a people pleaser, and ironically because I am a people pleaser, it is the only thing that is keeping me alive....... AND I HATE BEING ALIVE!

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(((((Danialla)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
A ppl pleaser I have been all my life
you are not alone.
I would move heaven and earth for ppl if I could.
At times yes I have felt the same that I ruined thier lifes.
I felt that with my parents even thou I followed thier wishes
Then felt I had forever altered my kids lives.
Because of taking care of my parents.
With my sisters life I did what ever it took to make her happy.
DId not matter how I felt.
I never felt it was a control issue...I felt I had lost control.
I would do anything to keep peace in my house.
It did not matter what happened to me.
"By the way not a good way to think"
Do not hate yourself for being kind and caring
But remember you have to take care of yourself too
You can remind me of that.

The book they are suggesting you read prolly is a good idea.
For me too

I have always put other ppl first....... sometimes I get mad at myself
*fustration*
I just want peace
At home I would do anything to make the yelling stop....
IRL I am the one who laughs, never does anyone see me cry.....
Always a smile, even if inside I am dieing
I can relate
I do feel you are a good person.
But please take care of you too
Sorry this was a bit of a ramble
but very close to my heart
muffy