Dr. T: “Well, you *were* overreacting. Wouldn’t you agree?” Me: “uh….”

I’m so annoyed at him for telling you this. You are allowed to feel whatever you’re feeling.

Just my take LT but I don’t think things are going to change with this therapist.

“And that I’d felt more connected to him, “not in a weird or inappropriate way, just that we were understanding each other and in a good place”

You should be able to say the above without adding the extra stuff. It’s not weird or inappropriate to feel the way you do. It just reads that you’re taking care of him. The focus should be on you.