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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul
I find this thread rather interesting. I can't help but notice, how this all started with OP being confused and not understanding that guys blow up.And slowly progressed to OP explaining away( his feeling rejected or everyone has anger...)...so on and so forth.OP while disagreeing with some of the posters ,comes across as she already knew all answers.She says she has an insight into guys blow up in her posts.Did any one else notice she somewhat answered her own question?We responded depending on the info she told us.I think she does know the real reason to why that happened. I believe we donot have the entire picture .She even stated in a reply to me that she thinks guy is a complete sociopath.( Refer to post: 31.)
Now my question to banana mist is.....If you thought he was a sociopath, you definitely saw red flags all along. Did you? Then why call ,text or WhatsApp the guy ?Why did you kept communicating for so long? Why call him on the fateful day to follow up on that coffee date? It didn't make sense to me.If I were you I would run a mile from a sociopath and you were running towards him.Hmmmmmm. You many times contradicted your own statements.I also find it strange that you stayed long enough on the phone to hear a lot of derogatory terms hurled at you.Why????? Why not cut the call short and block his %&#.You said you have self respect in response to another poster.I would like to hear your definition of self respect.
And finally my suggestion,
When you are truly interested in a guy,meet him in person as soon as you are comfortable, so that you get to know him for real.Please donot waste years on strangers.
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Well i had my suspicions but one can never be entirely sure. After all i didnt meet the guy. I could only speculate based on conversations and his overall behaviour. His intense blow up at the end came across like someone who has a narcissistic wound. But then again could simply be some kind of insecurity or blow to the ego he felt. There are plenty of reasons which could have resulted in him acting that way, those are only some of them.
For me it doesn't make sense that a guy will continue to show hes interested without actually being interested, and then retract without some thing else going on inside of him.
In the past people who i wasnt interested in and vice versa, we would have stopped speaking a long time before this certainly. There's no feasible way a normal person would have continued this length of time. Yes i understand towards the end he disappeared, but plenty of times before then we were in contact and he demonstratedt that he had an active interest in me