Hi Lemon, thanks for the comments.

It's funny, I brought up the overreacting thing thinking that he would say he wasn't trying to say I was overreacting--then he literally said it!

The thing is, in his mind, being "mildly irritated" is this minor thing. So if someone felt that way toward him, he'd be like "eh, whatever." So from his perspective, I suppose it is overreacting? But it's much different in my head.

As for the second part, I brought that up yesterday, but am not sure we really finished that part of the conversation, as I referenced something ex-T had said, and we ended up discussing that and my relationship with her.

But what I said to him was how I find I censor myself around him. The example I gave was from the previous session, when he was talking about how I may have felt more "emotionally cared for" by him lately regarding stuff with D. I said to him yesterday that I had wanted to say "I felt loved," quickly adding that I meant platonically, but that I worried about how he'd react to it. That he'd say something like "I don't love you" or "this is a professional relationship, and I save that for personal relationships." Even though I was just saying how it felt to me, not what *he* felt. (Of course I wanted him to say that he'd never say something like that to me, but he's also big on being honest and not making promises he doesn't know he can keep, so he likely wouldn't have said that.)

I'm trying to recall what exactly he said to that. I know somewhere in there he said that if he said something to me that upset me, he thought we'd be able to work through it. But then I mentioned ex-T's "I can't be your mother or your friend" comment, and that led to a side discussion about her and our relationship, and we never really circled back around to my censoring myself around him.

I'm considering mentioning it tomorrow, but I don't know. I have other, non-therapeutic-relationship stuff to talk about, like something H said to D last night that's bothering me, plus more stuff about D, so maybe I should stick to that? In part because we have an important meeting with D's school Monday that will likely lead to me being emotional, and I really don't want to risk more conflict with T right now. Our conversation the last half of yesterday's session about that was extremely helpful, and he was really supportive of me. Like I could see this shift in him and his energy--and empathy--once we changed to that topic. So maybe I focus on that for now, and resume stuff regarding the relationship later?