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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo
The point is that LT's therapist is not the authority on what qualifies as an over reaction. He thinks LT is over reacting, that's all that his comment tells LT. So LT could mould herself around his personal expectations, but what insight is that? LT needs support to work out for herself what her responses mean - not to rely on some external source to define that for her.
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This is something that rubs me the wrong way. You are 100% correct. The point in navigating the world is deciding for yourself what works and what doesn't, not behaving yourself or dulling down your reaction to avoid the threat of losing someone in your life or having them disapprove. So much focus and care is on what your therapist needs you to be LT.
When I said he was unethical I didn't even mean in increased support or how he supports you, most people have moments of needing more and needing less, I mean in his being out of his depth in helping you. So much time spent on how your relationship with him looks and I just wonder what is the core. What is the feeling. You don't have to tell me I'm not asking just saying when I read your posts LT I see distraction and protection. I use those techniques myself. Getting to the real core takes time but I really hope you can because I think healing that heals all this outside surface distraction noise.
My emetophobia is a distraction, my constant fighting with T was a distraction when I started work with EMDR T we went right to the heart and in that, the rest healed. I hope you can find the heart of things and I hope T helps but from everything you describe he does not sound skilled enough to see around the distractions.