Hugs if wanted, velcro. If it helps, a lot of people minimise their trauma, especially because the word sounds so serious.

For example, a lot of people think emotional neglect is not serious because "I had food, shelter, I wasn't emotionally abused, I wasn't beaten or sexually abused..." but Pete Walker says not having a single caretaker whom you can turn in times of need or danger is "the core wound", especially as many dismiss it VS more obvious abuse.

He (and some others) is of the opinion that some individuals can suffer some active abuse without developing PTSD, if there is one caretaker who does not emotionally neglect them.

Pdf link, since his website doesn't have a page on it: http://pete-walker.com/pdf/emotional...omplexPTSD.pdf