It doesn't make any sense that you call him to invite for coffee date,after hearing guy wants to slam you against the wall and pin you down on the ground and shows middle finger.Uses some derogatory towards women at his work place.Remember it was you that called him.Why??
What else you were expecting from the guy,while he was showing you his real self all along.It is very interesting you said it was his way for flirting some where along the lines.In one of the post you explained away his anger.You said you wouldn't be talking for that long if you weren't interested in the guy..So I gather you were still interested that is why you called him.Were you gonna move in?Or let the guy move in with you? If he Did not rage on that day,were you gonna consider him as a potential long term partner..?You come across like a woman who is willing to take a lot of abuse before deciding to dump the guy.I think you seriously need to look in,rather than looking out.