@Bananamist5, I think you are coming up with excuses for this man for his bad behaviors, and I think you accepted far too much from him that is unacceptable treatment and behavior. I would take a step back from dating and get a reality check on yourself before proceeding any further. You have a lot to learn about healthy vs unhealthy boundaries, healthy vs unhealthy communication styles and healthy vs unhealthy personality traits before you venture any further in the dating realm. At this rate, you will end up with a man who treats you like total crap and you will get severely hurt if you do not wisen up and become stronger with your own boundaries. You sound naive when you say that you interpreted his statement that he would throw you against a wall, or whatever he said, and you thought that was his way of flirting. You've got to wisen up here. That was a red flag showing potential violence towards women, and potentially, towards YOU.