Honestly if someone who considers me a friend said I should not be upset I didn’t get an excellent review while they did or that I shouldn’t be upset I got a lower paid job, I’d be very taken aback. I’d consider it’s unsupportive. It sounds that both of you aren’t good friends for each other or maybe aren’t friends at all. Sounds like very competitive co workers at best.

I don’t want you to think you are being scolded or anything but this kind of stuff sure would ruin friendship. If there ever was any friendship to begin with. It doesn’t sound like you like or respect her at all so why be friends?