Artie, I read your Dear T post and IFS says that embracing your "parts" and all of their conflicting desires and motivations is, paradoxically, the path to wholeness. If you can use your core self to make sense of and communicate among all the little fragments that have their own motivations, you will feel more emotionally stable and whole within yourself. (I am astonished at how often a part I don't like has a motivation that boils down to "it's trying to protect me/us.)