Longtime lurker here.

Do you have any local Mexican or Chinese restaurants with a kids menu? There’s like chicken strips or a hot dog, or French fries. It’s like you’re going to a Mexican restaurant but wanting Italian food. Technically it’s on the menu, sorta, but it’s not why people go there.

Like you want to do deep relational work, but you’re seeing someone who doesn’t work in that way. That doesn’t mean that Dr T isn’t useful for certain things, but he’s not ever going to be a relational/psychodynamic/trauma T.