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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal
i was thinking the other day again. how i used to always say "part of me wants x, part of me wants y". I never got to talk about this with you. But I think, I think, every time I say that, it's like, yet another way of not accepting/not owning parts of myself. Even though I say "part of me" - if it's not all of me, then I'm not accepting it, I'm not whole. There's an unsaid in there that goes something like this: "The part of me that I refuse to acknowledge wants x, but the part of me that I do acknowledge that is afraid of living wants y."
I'm going to focus on not saying the 'part of me' thing anymore. Instead I am choosing to say "I want one of two things: x or y and I am working it out." I am tired of not being whole. My goal for turning 60 is to do so in wholeness. It is what we were working for, for so long.
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Hey Artie: Please feel free to ignore/tell me to never respond to your posts.
What I’ve started working on in the last month is “part work.” EVERYBODY has different parts. It’s a human thing. The type of therapy that works w parts is called Internal Family Systems (IFS)- and it’s whole objective is to uncover and unburden all these different parts of you. Each one is protecting something inside of you.
Just a recent example: My T asked if I thought I should dive deep into the trauma work (not a good idea), and I was like “part of me wants to, and part of me doesn’t.” Instead of thinking I am less than whole bc I have these conflicting parts, she becomes curious about them.
ANYWAY, I am rambling. If any of this seems to be of interest to you, I recommend the book “No Bad Parts.” It is by the author (who’s name escapes me) who created IFS.
Sorry if this is intrusive in any way.