Does the experience of feeling safer with somebody who is less accepting feel familiar? That seems like the sort of earlier experience that could show up as a pattern in somebody's life. (You don't necessarily have to answer, just wondering.) The "Okay, any minute you're going to reject me" thing is totally the kind of thing that comes up (probably over and over and over again) in relational therapy. And I can understand why you would be cautious given what happened during that odd hybrid marriage/individual counseling situation with ex-MC.