LT, I don't particularly like Dr T in some ways, and I do hear you on how he helps with D, and I also do want to emphasise that I don't believe in pushing people hard to leave a therapist.

I lived with someone who was really very pushy about wanting to me to change my therapist, so much so that the person would literally physically ambush me for yet another attempt.

I might feel he's shaming and feel he's not great...and I also understand how it's not so simple as just changing therapists when someone has worked with one for a while.

I remember when people suggested I try out other therapists when I was in 2 major, prolonged ruptures with my T (both years ago). I definitely could see why yet also found it really difficult even when I found other therapist profiles who could have been a better match. Ultimately I did spell out what I needed from my T, and why, and we had frank discussions.

The first thing, she came around to understand what I was seeking, and we compromised. I also saw a 2nd T with her agreement. Years after that rupture with me and most likely others, she slowly changed her stance.

The second one, was me refusing to do trauma work as I knew it could really harm me due to circumstances in my life, and she respected that.