It is hard when the conversation disintegrates into polarities. Easier sometimes to let ones attention focus on the polarized views, instead of the views where people are trying to integrate or synthesize various aspects.

Things seemed to have disintegrated rather, and people were just saying the same old thing... The thread didn't seem to be progressing, so I guess locking it was understandable. I do think it is a shame, though, that discussion degenerates at times.

I think that different ways of resolving tensions is interesting. But sometimes... People are more interested in making a point. It is hard, yeah.

I like and respect Pinksoil a great deal. But I do struggle a bit with various tensions in her position (mostly because I have similar tensions in living my own life). FIguring out the range of different solutions and challenging some thoughts (e.g., if I don't act in x way then I'm not being true to myself) is part of gaining greater appreciation of ones options such that one can see a variety of different possibilities of ways of being. I guess people feel threatened when others suggest different ways, though. It is hard. Egos are fragile (across the board). I don't know.