It's like I'm looking back at myself. I had the exact same boyfriend. Eventually he dumped me because he found love on the internet with a total psycho then tried to come crawling back. It wasnt until I left him that I realized how depressed I had been. I gained 60 pounds in 10 years of being with him. The easy way out I'd to leave him. But if you feel like there is any love there you could try, but judging by what you've told us he is a master manipulator and will probably verbally abuse you abd put you down so you will stay and keep being his meal ticket.

May I ask if there's any intimacy in the relationship, because it sounds like you're the mother.

Get out and be free. Also you don't need a license to leave his ***, but go pay for lesson's and cut him off financially. Change the pin numbers you owe him nothing.