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Originally Posted by NorthernMark
Immaturity is a funny word.. Are you thinking you can express simply love and get a response from him that way?
To say he never really understood you is a give on your match being of little concern for you to him in the beginning. That might sound bad because it is however it really shouldn't be considered going forward. You have to makeup ground where and as you cross it.
Further, importing chemical issues with the reconciliation is stupid and should not be part of your conversation as I'm sure they were there when you started also.
Why are you like that is because you have an idea that you could more easy start with a new or old version and live out your days with them. Do that or not but it sounds like you might communicate with him like you do here than you should not make it sound so tentative and pick the direction of restore.
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I’ve communicated with him about having a healthy home environment, healthy financial choices, appropriate parenting, and monitoring his mood safety wise. I’ve also talked to him about my boundaries. I try to do this in love. he does not respond in any meaningful way when I communicate with him.
I see recently he is trying to be more thoughtful and invested. I’ve been telling him we need to separate if he doesn’t commit to healthier choices. I’m not sure that has made any difference, but now that he is aware his daughter has lost confidence in him, I think he cares some.
My take is that he doesn’t understand me because we think so differently and he isn’t good at putting himself in others shoes.