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Old Jun 07, 2022, 03:49 PM
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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee View Post
The vagueness would be out of character for my T, which would make it more perplexing or potentially worrying. I get the sense that you want to be closer to Dr. T than he allows or is comfortable with, so there's probably an element of that at play. You want to move closer, even possibly to be appropriately supportive about whatever the thing was (saying, "Oh, that's too bad" etc) and you know that you are likely to be rebuffed and/or feel rejected if you try.
Yes, I imagine there's some of that at play. Even if it was something really minor like, "Oh, I was hoping we could get a reservation at x restaurant this weekend, and it didn't work out."

I'm quite emotional right now, but I think it's due to a comment he made regarding my D (and her assessments) near the end of session that we didn't have time to fully address. Where I was talking about how I was wondering about getting a second opinion from an outside (nonschool) psychologist regarding whether she had an intellectual disability. If I could just have them give this one particular test, instead of the full slate that would run $3,500 if we went private. And he said he doubted one would be willing to only do that test, that when he used to do assessments, he wouldn't have done it. And that I had all of the information, from the school tests, her teachers, and our experiences with her. Almost like, "Well, you have the facts, you just don't want to accept them." When I'm unsure if we have all the facts? Like if they're fully valid? (Sorry, this is getting rather in the weeds for this thread perhaps.)

And normally I'd be talking to him tomorrow (well, I wouldn't have talked to him today, but Monday) or else 2 days after we'd met, but with the schedule this week, I'm not seeing him until Friday. I did just now contact him to ask if he had anything sooner, but I don't know if that's bad that I did that. As I just did that a week ago? I suspect he made room for me then, but this is a different thing (he knew what that was about), and I didn't give a reason for it.

It's like in session, I held back any emotion until the end, then it came out a bit, but then I had to leave. Normally, I'd probably just email him, but with the recent conflicts, I feel I can't really do that unless it's truly urgent (by his definition, not mine).

Anyway, I'm rambling....
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