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Originally Posted by stopdog
No - that sort of thing doesn't bother me with anyone. I would accept it as a part of normal human interaction and go on. I would doubt any of the utterances had anything to do with me because it is more of someone just talking outloud to themselves. I talk like that more to myself than to any other human who might be standing nearby
What does unconditional positive regard look like to you? Because I am not sure it is what you seem to be expecting.
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Well, he very specifically said (a long time ago) that he does not believe in unconditional positive regard. But I see it as looking at someone assuming their best intentions. Giving them the benefit of the doubt. Focusing on the reasons behind the actions vs. the actions themselves--like, for example, "This client is doing this because they feel insecure. Let's address that" vs. "This client is irritating me. Let's address that." Like, maybe the T has the second thought, too, but focuses on the first one. Or "I don't know why the client is doing this--let's examine that." (Note, thinking of this in terms of therapist toward client, not people toward other people in general.)