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Old Jun 08, 2022, 04:58 AM
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Originally Posted by Starlingflock View Post
Also, worrying that he’ll harm himself for the last few years. It’s hard to turn that off. It complicates my thinking and feeling. it’s changed how I feel but I haven’t paid a lot of thoughtful attention to the difference.
He will do what he will do regardless of your actions. What he does is called emotional blackmail and manipulation if he threatens to harm himself. You however have no control over what he does or does not do. In fact by enabling him you possibly making it harder for him to ever get better. He has no good reasons to ever be better.