I guess i missed what bad thing happened recently.

Also, you keep talking about him bringing his feelings into the room. Why cant that be, he is just doing his job? His being a blank slate is to act as a representative of humanity. Like to say to you, "are you sure you want to do that?" Instead of, "Wtf is wrong with you?!" THAT would be "bringing his feelings into the room." Not just setting a boundary, like "thats getting annoying." You are negating his ability to do ANYTHING therapeutic by declaring it all "his feelings."

ETA - By definition of his being your t, none of it is "his feelings". End ETA.

Also, do you expect to get thru this without ever feeling shame? I dont think thats realistic. I felt shame constantly IRL, so of course i will bring that into t. I had to temper myself so to speak to not feel shame when i accepted a glass of water from him. But that was all me, not anything he was doing. When you feel shame, you yell at him. Or blame him. Or dwell on how he should have said something differently. But you have to change something in you for this to work.