Also, you have to ask yourself and confront: do I deserve better than this?!? Many women feel they do not deserve better, so they stay in an abusive relationship. But an important component to both realizing that you ARE in fact being abused and to facing this reality, is to also embrace the idea that you do not deserve that kind of disrespect and disregard, and that you deserve far more and far better. This is a crucial step forward that one takes when in an abusive situation, that helps one to un-stick oneself. Once you realize and fully own that you DO IN FACT deserve better, it's far easier to make a decision to leave.