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Originally Posted by stopdog
feelings are not facts. One might feel shame but the other might not have been shaming. I wouldn't, from reading it, say the therapist's words or actions are universally shaming (I don't see them as shaming at all for that matter). That shame was felt is not the same as the other causing such.
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Exactly. I still struggle with understanding this but my T us always saying you have a "thought" that I am shaming you for example. Then he will say lets check the facts and he will help me break it down. This is a DBT skill that I never quite mastered.