I hope you will get past this circle of caring so much about things he says. It sounds to me he has no ill will towards you and that he is trying his best to help you as much as you want. It is another issue if he is able to, because his way of therapy is obviously not completely what you are seeking (connecting and relational talk), but I'm sure you find him useful in therapy anyway as you see him so often and have done so for such a long time. Sounds to me you have a good therapeutic relationship and you don't need to worry about it or everything he says that you don't 100% love. Also if you want to keep talking and exploring the relationship between you and the therapist, maybe you would benefit from a therapist that works that way? From what I have gathered, your therapist is keen to help you in your life and might get easily irritated when you concentrate on him instead and I doubt he is going to change his ways that much.