we went thru this with my late husband. he would just lose control of everything. I felt so bad for him and didn't know how to help him. not until we went to a DAV meeting. I got tons of material to read up on it and man it sounded like someone had been watching our house! it was so good to know I was not alone in my quest to help him. I am so glad we did. he did get help but then he started the self medicating which led to the end of our life together and ultimately his death.
Troy hang in there hon and allow your wife to help as much as she can.