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miss, i am curious.. maybe you said this once and i missed it.. or maybe before i came here (i joined a year ago but wasnt really coming here until late fall).. but have you ever asked T directly if he cared? Or has he just said so without you asking (so much more torrid)?

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Fluffy,

To be honest with you I don't know if I have asked him directly or if he has said so directly. It's not something I need to discuss head on because I know he cares. I remember once he said he liked me within the context of a discussion we were having.

I am confident that he cares--his behavior shows it. How? Well, he always returns my phone calls even if he's crabby about them; he always accommodates my scheduling needs; he gives me phone sessions on the weekend if I need them to stabilize myself; he is always respectful; he always begins and ends sessions on time; he knows my kids and my H and their issues and is able to contextualize my therapy with this information; he takes the time to painstakingly review these ruptures we have and to figure out how to move forward; he is willing to suspend his opinion to listen to my needs in session; he shows joy in my accomplishments and he listens to my poetry; he even looks at rainbows with me! So, yeah, he cares.



OMG This sounds like a new thread....bumping.