It turns out that my father was not thrilled I contacted my cousins to let them know he is ill with a terminal disease. He does not want his sister knowing this. He told me yesterday when I visited that he has closed that chapter of his life. She last told him that she "loves" him, but "does not like him". They haven't spoken since.

This morning I told him to at least reply to my cousins via text to thank them for their messages of concern. When I first contacted them, I said that dad would appreciate hearing from them. Yet, he hasn't replied yet.

I really felt it was the right thing to do, and now I don't think so anymore. I wish I hadn't reached out to them, but 20/20 hindsight. I also though that dad WOULD appreciate hearing from them - they ARE family, after all, and they're on his side of the family.

How sad and tragic that he is dying yet he and his sister refuse to speak. He will die, and she will not even know. Would she even come to his funeral?????

And it's all over money! Of course!!! What else drives families apart in this way?!? His sister had tried to sue him over their father's estate after their father had passed.

Granted, his sister is a very self-serving, selfish woman who creates conflicts and rifts with other family members. She didn't even speak to her own kids for a few years at one point over a conflict. She is one messed up individual.

I guess it wasn't my place to do this..... my heart was in the right place though and my mother didn't think it was so bad of me to do. She thought it was a thoughtful gesture. But my dad? It goes against his wishes and he doesn't want his sister knowing or hearing anything of his illness.

The whole thing makes me very sad.