I think looking up where someone lives or even driving by is one thing but bringing something unsolicited to their door is a bit different.

I think I personally would be very bothered if someone just drove to my house and left something by my door. I’d not be bothered if someone asked me for my address so they can mail me a gift. It is perfectly fine and it happened to me and it doesn’t bother me. I’d be ok if they asked if they can drop something by my door. I’d probably be ok if someone just looked my address up online and then mailed me a get well card if d probably be ok. It’s just dropping something on my porch would be very uncomfortable.

I am not a therapist but I do case managing that requires many things similar to therapy. I also work with vulnerable population. I am always available for them BUT I live an hour away from work. Always did and likely always will. It gives me privacy. I believe that even though I am very devoted to my job I have a life and have rights for privacy. Seriously if I walked out to the porch now and saw unsolicited gifts from someone who drove by, I’d be very upset.

Now with someone being very ill. A coworker of mine was on a long medical leave and I had people asking what’s the best way to send things. I hand delivered gifts and cards to her in the hospital and then rehab and then her house. So I think with the sick therapist I’d probably ask other people in her office how to send her get well things. It could be given to her in the office when she comes to get stuff or could be emailed to her. Or someone could ask what she prefers

Having said that, your therapist needed to refer you to someone long time ago as she clearly cannot do the job. It’s unprofessional that she continues this charade of never being at work and never letting you know what’s going on. It’s so very wrong of her. Also she kept accepting gifts not saying anything but then all of a sudden had an issue with it. She is weird