I was the one who drove by my T’s house several years ago and posted on here as well as the quora link that was shared.

I thought I’d chime in since i have struggled with deep shame around driving by my T’s house ever since. I’m really sorry and don’t mean to hijack OP’s post. I also had extreme attachment issues and my T blurred boundaries (coming into my school dorm room so I could show her how I’d hung her notes and the picture of us on my wall, fostering intimate moments of connection (including telling me she loved me as well as sitting on the couch together with intertwined fingers), among many other things.

I understand OP’s desire to drive by her T’s house and I suppose it reminded me of my situation. I think T’s need to remember they are the professional in the relationship - many of us clients come with attachment issues and the relationship itself can be incredibly over stimulating if handled poorly. I wish I could go back in time and not post the quora post because the therapists who commented on there did not have the full story. Also, I don’t mean to deny my responsibility. I have just spent the last two years hating myself and feeling disgusted with what I did and it’s taken an incredibly long time, multiple alcohol treatment centers, and many other therapists to tell me that what my T did was not okay.