I've never driven by a T's house, although I only know where one of my former T's lives and it is in a completely different town. I do have her address and I send her Christmas cards every year. She does not send me one.

I haven't really given gifts to a T except for former T. I would make her handmade cards when she would go on vacation. And when she got sick with MS I made her a blanket. And when we stopped working together I sent her a little stuffed animal mouse that I also had that I would often bring to therapy with me. So we each have one. She accepted these things graciously. But probably because it was at the end of our time together.

I can see wanting to take care of your T when they are out sick and it would frustrate me that they accepted the gifts and then suddenly it's not okay, especially as they had given you gifts before. So that's kind of strange.

I don't think your T is up for doing the kind of work that you need, but that is just my two cents. You can certainly do whatever your heart and gut and mind tell you is the right thing to do.

I am sorry that your T hasn't been more caring and responsive to you during this long time of not seeing her. That would be very difficult for me as well.

Sending you hugs, if you want, Kit