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eskielover · Jun 13, 2022, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by WovenGalaxy

I'm doing better. Thanks Bill. We talked last night and both want to keep seeing each other. So we are. There *was* some confusion, in our previous convo.

I feel pretty awkward for saying one thing, then you guys saying sorry, then it changing. I really thought it was happening.

Hugs to all.

It's ok.....it is called sorting through the communication & trying to understand what each other is actually saying....that brings better understanding of each other & clears the cobwebs of assumptions. Sorting out relationships is a challenge for everyone. When one person has lived around teasing a lot & the other person has been hurt by it, it takes time to sort through.

My now ex thought that insult comedy like Don Rickles was something fun to use on me right after we got married. I was good at throwing it right back in his face.....but after a few months I was sick of it & didn't want to tolerate it any more. Gave him an ultimatum, stop or get out. Seriously, it took him about a year of constant reminding for him to stop it. Just saying when we don't like a behavior in someone & they are willing to change, it doesn't happen immediately either. Relationships always take work to iron out issues when both sides want to. It is when both sides can't iron out issues that incompatibility happens....that is why communication is so important in all relationships