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eskielover · Jun 13, 2022, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Arbie

Thank you, everyone, for your support here. In addition to my daughter having bipolar disorder, my husband does think he may be on the autism spectrum. It could help explain why he may not realize I wasn't finished talking yet. He has improved a lot, but it's still difficult with my daughter. She overtalks not only me but pretty much everybody. We've been considering going into family therapy together. If we do, that's one thing I would definitely like addressed.

I used to have it happen a lot living around dysfunctional people all my life (including my ex) but even just in normal conversations outside of home.

I found that sometimes my answers (or what I was trying to say) wasn't direct & to the point & I tended to ramble with my part of the conversation.... .but I also realized that they weren't listening anyway.

Example you could just say in a loud voice, "your button is fixed" instead of making it part of the conversation.

For me, it was a really strange feeling once I left my bad marriage & moved totally away from the area, the people in my new community actually stopped to hear what I was saying. It surprised me so much at first I actually forgot what I was trying to say until I focused of being more precise with my part of the conversation & got used to what it was like really being around people who were not dysfunctional. 15 years later, I have much better communication skills & am a part of conversations instead of being talked over (or ignored)